I remember the first time someone told me I was “too much.”
Too loud. Too sensitive. Too emotional.
It was said like a flaw, a flaw I should tuck neatly away.
And for years, I did.
I became quieter, smaller, and easier to digest. I tried to fit into boxes that never seemed to fit me. I thought that if I became who others wanted me to be, I would finally feel accepted — finally feel worthy.
But here’s what I’ve learned: worthiness isn’t something you earn.
It isn’t a gold star for good behaviour or a badge for pleasing everyone.
It’s the quiet truth you were born with.
The Turning Point
One day, I looked at the people I admired most. Not one of them was trying to be someone else. They were messy, imperfect, bold, and unapologetic. They laughed too loudly. They spoke their truth, even if it shook the room.
And I realised — my worth didn’t vanish because someone couldn’t see it.
That was the start of coming home to myself.
The Heart of Self-Worth
Your worth isn’t determined by:
- Your productivity
- How well you meet someone else’s expectations
- Whether you have it all figured out
Your worth is already in you. It’s the way you care, the way you love, the way you show up — even when it’s hard.
Three Gentle Reminders to Nurture Your Self-Worth
Release the need for universal approval. You’re not here to be for everyone — you’re here to be for you.
Speak to yourself like you would to your best friend. You wouldn’t call them “too much” — you’d call them brave for showing up authentically.
Notice what lights you up. Worth thrives in spaces where your spirit feels alive.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re “too much” or “not enough,” I hope you remember this: your worth has never been in question. It’s in the way you breathe life into the world simply by being here.
You are already more than enough — and you always have been.